Living With A Book Addict: …and their bookish emotions

aeOne of the main side effects of having a spouse that is bookish, is a general loss of said spouse to a book if it is good enough to pull him/her in.  In my particular case, I’ve lost Kim to a number of books now, only to have her emerge hours later in a general state of emotion.  I use this general term, as there is not one particular emotion that predominates over the others.  She can experience sadness, elation, anger, misery, or any number of feelings in an instant.   It’s almost like she’s an emotional time-traveler!  Of course I say this almost tongue-in-cheek, as I’m glad Kim’s found something that makes her passionate, regardless of which way the emotions happen to pull her at the time.

One great example of this phenomenon is the book One Day by David Nicholls.  I happened to be reading a funny book at the same time, and was sitting next to Kim on the couch and laughing.  I looked up, mid chuckle, to see tears coming down Kim’s face!  Imagine my surprise and immediate searching thoughts of what I had done in the past 5 minutes to produce these tears.  Fortunately it wasn’t anything I did to pull them out, but it was the story that brought her to tears.  So, here we sat, laughing and crying, both wrapped up in completely different worlds.  I suppose that this is the power books can have over us, but I have to admit that Kim’s bookish emotions do trump my own.

I suppose the best analogy I have to explain the situation is comparing her love of books to my love of science.  It’s not that Kim doesn’t appreciate science, but she doesn’t deal with it every day and have as deep an understanding of it as I do.  The same goes with my understanding and connection with a book.  Granted, I do enjoy books immensely and get a lot of joy from reading, but I feel as if I don’t have the same special relationship with them that Kim does.  I always enjoy seeing the sense of wonderment and amazement that she exudes when she is reading a book that she truly enjoys.  Of course, she always lets me know just how much she LOVES a book, but as I said before, I’m glad that she can have such a great response to a truly good book.

So, I guess that brings me to the obvious question: how involved do you get with reading?  How bookish are your emotions?  Let me know in the comment section below!  Happy (or any other applicable emotion) reading!

14 thoughts on “Living With A Book Addict: …and their bookish emotions

  1. Hi Todd, I really enjoyed reading your post and can relate to it completely! I, like Kim, am a book addict and am frequently absorbed in a book, with all its attendant emotions and adventures. Reading can take me from the depths of despair to great happiness but I never tire of it, nor do I regret what it gives me in that respect! It has shaped my view of the world and broadened my horizons immeasurably. I think that you are a pretty great spouse to recognise this and appreciate what it gives to Kim. Enjoy your reading too! Sarah

  2. Depending what I am reading, I keep telling myself I will go to bed after the next chapter. It turns to like 4 AM, the book is done and I am wish that it wasn’t.

  3. Over the last few months, I was reading The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings. I was quite slow during this time so it took me a couple of months to finish all 4 books but when the last chapter was finally over, I did feel a bit sad because the world that I was so engrossed in over the last couple of months was finally getting over. I felt I now needed something equally good to take away the feeling of emptiness that I now felt. So, maybe you can say those were my emotions related to reading.

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  5. Very interesting! I’ve never thought of it in terms of “involvement”. Personally, I can get really into books, especially the “boring” ones, but it’s the really emotionally heady ones that I want to run away from .I end up closing them and making comments again and again.

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